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We have all been exposed to the familiar saying, 'Love yourself first'. In fact, most of us have heard it, but, probably never taken the time to actually analyze as to what it really means. Psychics hear daily how people want change, but, seldom to people want to take the action necessary to make it happen.
This topic is interesting because people say it often and while we all seem to know what it means, there is no real explanation of just how to accomplish this enormous task. The person saying this to someone who is experiencing anguish, elevated anxiety, hurt, fear, frustration or depression, is usually unaware of the effect this comment can have on its recipient. Sometimes people who say this are exasperated with the person having difficulties because they do not have the skills or training to really help solve these issues.
People are usually just trying to help when they say this phrase. However, what actually happens with the person in trouble is that they withdraw further. This has a tail-spin effect which causes the person who received the comment to feel attacked. Generally, a comment like this has the converse effect on the person it is said to.
The message behind these words can be damaging to the recipient because it feels like rejection, often making the situation worse because now they feel cut off with no one to talk to. They literally get stopped in their tracks and feel as though they have just been slapped in the face.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. I can see exactly why you are in this predicament
3. I can see that you need to take an action and quit sulking
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
The pain will intensify in a person who is in a crisis because they need someone to vent to and are instead being told how to cure their issues by a trusted friend or relative. When people feel at a loss of what to do they want to be heard; that is when they turn to psychic readings and make a call as a last resort to get some relief from their situation.
The act of loving yourself literally means treating the "self" well in thought and deed. This process of loving our "selves" begins by taking an action. Below is a scenario which most of us can relate to:
Most parents will react immediately to a child that is being assaulted by other children. Their built-in instincts force them to rush in to save the child from a bad situation. They will usually removed them quickly, find out if they are physically okay, then hug them in a re-assuring way until they calm down. They have in effect saved the child's 'self' from further altercations.
Adults face similar circumstances at various times in their lives, learning how to removed their own 'self' from negative situations. Some people, however, will remain in horrid circumstances, hoping they will just go away on their own. They hope that change will occur without them having to take any action.
The reason things don't change is because they didn't take any action. These types of situations tend to repeat themselves until all is black and the bottom seems to drop out. Depression sets in and a sense of hopelessness takes over. They tend to try to unload the bad feelings by talking about it over and over to anyone who will listen. This type of behavior pushes people away. Why? Because they see the person drowning when all they would have to do is take a step in the right direction in order to change it, instead of taking appropriate action like the ones listed below:
1. Taking your "self" for a walk, changing your residence, changing a job or career, removing your "self" from the negative behavior of a friend, relative or lover.
2. Talk your 'self' for a hike or walk in a park
As psychics, we can often see that someone is in the wheel chair of life, facing a staircase, and feel the frustration and know that just around the corner, down the hall, is an elevator complete with a button to push. A skilled psychic can help you to see other options. There are usually opportunities just around the corner, but, it may take an action on your part in order for change to begin.
Loving yourself first is the only option you have if you want others to love you back.
This topic is interesting because people say it often and while we all seem to know what it means, there is no real explanation of just how to accomplish this enormous task. The person saying this to someone who is experiencing anguish, elevated anxiety, hurt, fear, frustration or depression, is usually unaware of the effect this comment can have on its recipient. Sometimes people who say this are exasperated with the person having difficulties because they do not have the skills or training to really help solve these issues.
People are usually just trying to help when they say this phrase. However, what actually happens with the person in trouble is that they withdraw further. This has a tail-spin effect which causes the person who received the comment to feel attacked. Generally, a comment like this has the converse effect on the person it is said to.
The message behind these words can be damaging to the recipient because it feels like rejection, often making the situation worse because now they feel cut off with no one to talk to. They literally get stopped in their tracks and feel as though they have just been slapped in the face.
1. I'm frustrated because I don't know how to help you
2. I can see exactly why you are in this predicament
3. I can see that you need to take an action and quit sulking
4. I can't fix it for you so I don't want to hear about it anymore
The pain will intensify in a person who is in a crisis because they need someone to vent to and are instead being told how to cure their issues by a trusted friend or relative. When people feel at a loss of what to do they want to be heard; that is when they turn to psychic readings and make a call as a last resort to get some relief from their situation.
The act of loving yourself literally means treating the "self" well in thought and deed. This process of loving our "selves" begins by taking an action. Below is a scenario which most of us can relate to:
Most parents will react immediately to a child that is being assaulted by other children. Their built-in instincts force them to rush in to save the child from a bad situation. They will usually removed them quickly, find out if they are physically okay, then hug them in a re-assuring way until they calm down. They have in effect saved the child's 'self' from further altercations.
Adults face similar circumstances at various times in their lives, learning how to removed their own 'self' from negative situations. Some people, however, will remain in horrid circumstances, hoping they will just go away on their own. They hope that change will occur without them having to take any action.
The reason things don't change is because they didn't take any action. These types of situations tend to repeat themselves until all is black and the bottom seems to drop out. Depression sets in and a sense of hopelessness takes over. They tend to try to unload the bad feelings by talking about it over and over to anyone who will listen. This type of behavior pushes people away. Why? Because they see the person drowning when all they would have to do is take a step in the right direction in order to change it, instead of taking appropriate action like the ones listed below:
1. Taking your "self" for a walk, changing your residence, changing a job or career, removing your "self" from the negative behavior of a friend, relative or lover.
2. Talk your 'self' for a hike or walk in a park
As psychics, we can often see that someone is in the wheel chair of life, facing a staircase, and feel the frustration and know that just around the corner, down the hall, is an elevator complete with a button to push. A skilled psychic can help you to see other options. There are usually opportunities just around the corner, but, it may take an action on your part in order for change to begin.
Loving yourself first is the only option you have if you want others to love you back.
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