The post debates the advantages and disadvantages of learning proper sex methodology from books and courses and whether this takes spontaneity out of the sex life. A few people believe it con ruin sex while others feel it's the only way to reach real sexual fulfillment. We chat about what we feel is the balance that has to be reached between these 2 opposites.
When I attend lectures and courses, one of the first things that Often comes up is that with too much technique sex becomes unnatural. I make tiny bets with myself as to how long that it takes before somebody sticks up their hand and airs their objection.
O.K, that is a good question, let's answer it : Firstly , exactly how NATURAL is a sex life which has been DE-NATURALIZED since birth? Michel Odent, creator of the Prime Health Research Center in London has statistically proved the moment of birth has a direct influence on the human being's capacity to like, and can have an impact on that person's sex life. We all know that in this present time caesarian sections are the standard and even vaginal delivery is heavily medicalized.
After being born we grow up and at last we go to Sunday school where we are taught that sex is disgraceful ( unless you are endeavoring to fall pregnant ) and that masturbation is VERY Disgraceful. Then you grow into puberty and start watching porn and jerking off then and having guilty feelings about it, and as quickly as you can you try to lose your virginity.
That's also a big guilt trip because the law of nature claims that your body is sexually mature at the age of 12-13 years, but OUR law says that you've got to be at the least 16-18 ( depending on where you reside ), and it might be best if you were wed anyhow. So , probably you are feeling shocked or guilty, you are on an elevated sugar, high fat diet with little exercise, and therefore you are not the most powerful of folks. Most likely you have erectile Problems and rapid ejaculation.
Men are getting small pleasure and ladies are getting no pleasure at all, everyone seems to be emulating porn, and you are telling me all this is totally natural? !
OK. One thing at a time : There's very little natural about our sex life in this era. We sway like pendulums between Sex Promoting and Spiritual Propriety. We are totally confused. We have forgotten that sex is something beautiful, clean ( regardless of if it is a one night stand ), magical and necessary to our contentment. We have totally forgotten how to have natural sex as we have lost our sensitiveness - it's harder for us to connect and we don't talk to our partners about sex!
Even when we do we are similar to the blind leading the blind - we have no idea where we should be going! So the point is this, you need to learn the technique at some particular point and then be in a position to forget about it ; make it part of your DNA. But you DO need to learn it.
I have read numerous books and have put together a selection of material that complements each other, so you won't waste time and money purchasing rubbish. If you're doing this along with your other half, then that is even better as you can compare notes. If however your partner is like those guys or gals that think learning method will compromise their sex life, then I suggest that you do the following : don't force the issue at all - order your material, learn your material, bring your material into the bedroom and then find her G-Spot! Leave your other half reeling and pleading for more!! You'll see how quick she'll change her mind about learning method!
When I attend lectures and courses, one of the first things that Often comes up is that with too much technique sex becomes unnatural. I make tiny bets with myself as to how long that it takes before somebody sticks up their hand and airs their objection.
O.K, that is a good question, let's answer it : Firstly , exactly how NATURAL is a sex life which has been DE-NATURALIZED since birth? Michel Odent, creator of the Prime Health Research Center in London has statistically proved the moment of birth has a direct influence on the human being's capacity to like, and can have an impact on that person's sex life. We all know that in this present time caesarian sections are the standard and even vaginal delivery is heavily medicalized.
After being born we grow up and at last we go to Sunday school where we are taught that sex is disgraceful ( unless you are endeavoring to fall pregnant ) and that masturbation is VERY Disgraceful. Then you grow into puberty and start watching porn and jerking off then and having guilty feelings about it, and as quickly as you can you try to lose your virginity.
That's also a big guilt trip because the law of nature claims that your body is sexually mature at the age of 12-13 years, but OUR law says that you've got to be at the least 16-18 ( depending on where you reside ), and it might be best if you were wed anyhow. So , probably you are feeling shocked or guilty, you are on an elevated sugar, high fat diet with little exercise, and therefore you are not the most powerful of folks. Most likely you have erectile Problems and rapid ejaculation.
Men are getting small pleasure and ladies are getting no pleasure at all, everyone seems to be emulating porn, and you are telling me all this is totally natural? !
OK. One thing at a time : There's very little natural about our sex life in this era. We sway like pendulums between Sex Promoting and Spiritual Propriety. We are totally confused. We have forgotten that sex is something beautiful, clean ( regardless of if it is a one night stand ), magical and necessary to our contentment. We have totally forgotten how to have natural sex as we have lost our sensitiveness - it's harder for us to connect and we don't talk to our partners about sex!
Even when we do we are similar to the blind leading the blind - we have no idea where we should be going! So the point is this, you need to learn the technique at some particular point and then be in a position to forget about it ; make it part of your DNA. But you DO need to learn it.
I have read numerous books and have put together a selection of material that complements each other, so you won't waste time and money purchasing rubbish. If you're doing this along with your other half, then that is even better as you can compare notes. If however your partner is like those guys or gals that think learning method will compromise their sex life, then I suggest that you do the following : don't force the issue at all - order your material, learn your material, bring your material into the bedroom and then find her G-Spot! Leave your other half reeling and pleading for more!! You'll see how quick she'll change her mind about learning method!
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